Healing from People-Pleasing: Choose Freedom Over Fixing

If you're already on your healing journey, you might occasionally find yourself wondering:
"When will the things I came here to fix be fixed, and when can I live my life free from all of this?"
These moments of uncertainty are perfectly natural.

On the path to healing, the real work lies in integrating what you're learning about yourself into your daily life. It's all about integration. The idea that healing and other aspects of your life are separate entities contributes to suffering. We can mistakenly believe that our career is unrelated to our wounds, that we can't reconcile our gifts with the way we make a living, or that we're fundamentally flawed and need fixing. This feeds victim mentality and does not assist sovereignty.

This pattern is particularly common among people-pleasers. People with people-pleasing tendencies change their core selves to fix external situations, ensuring the well-being and safety of others. However, as life progresses, the inner part that adapted to fix things yearns for freedom and begins to assert itself. How deep must you delve to set that inner part free?

The depths of your healing journey are both infinite and transformative. What you focus on is what you'll experience more of. What's your desire? Do you seek endless healing or boundless freedom of expression? Reconnecting with your authentic inner desires is a crucial first step, especially if you've suppressed them to maintain others' comfort.

If your deep dive is aimed at fixing inner turmoil or addressing feelings of separateness and inadequacy, you'll likely uncover more to fix. However, if you're diving deep to love and nurture those neglected aspects that crave love, attention, awareness, and acceptance, you'll find more spaces in your heart to love. This will enable you to welcome them back into the loving embrace of your whole self, and from there find the grounding that the whole self wants: to be itself, under the people-pleaser pattern.

You can ask yourself: is the impulse to fix just a internal repetition of the initial trauma? Is this what is needed, or is it love? Ultimately, your intention drives your healing journey. Do you intend to fix, or do you intend to love?

Remember, energy flows where attention goes. The healing journey mirrors this principle. The power of intention shapes your creative life force. Your approach to healing is a reflection of how you navigate life in general.

So, consider this:
Do you choose to fix, or do you choose to love?